The governing dynamics of relationship between two people much seem like that of a spring action.
There are drift aparts and negative energy storage; and then there is proximity development, negative energy release and positive energy accumulation.
Misunderstandings, callousness, grudges and insensitive behavior cause the drift apart, the negative emotions generated therefrom result in caustic energy that strains relationship. In such a state each party carries unexpressed grudges. If taken too far and in the event of inadequate discussions, relationships can break, divorces and separation can ensue: the spring can break.

However, the state of stretched spring is a wonderful opportunity for the two parties to experience the antipodal affection and nearness, the extent of which can be achieved to be equally profound as the state of resolved strenuosness. Expression of emotions, open discussion of concerns help achieve this desirable result.

I've heard many a couples and elderly people say that disputes amongst spouses/siblings can, if properly resolved help consolidate the profoundness of love in relationship. Or the farther you stretch the spring and release it, the closer compressed it'll get!!

Keeping grudges to oneself, not talking and not expressing concerns, may cause lesser disputes, but the interpersonal hurt accmulates over time. The spring extends slowly, the negative energy gets stored, and can make the spring break in long run.

However, in the event of open discussions and clarification of interpersonal grudges, the negative energy is released and the spring contracts; resulting in positive energy in the form of love, admiration and compassion.


July 2003, New York
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