Ahead of every foreign exchange program the participants have own expectations, dreams, fears of the upcoming trip, etc.. And I, too, had several assumptions and expectations about my semester in Örebro, Sweden. Being used to the urban environment of Berlin, Germany I thought about the differences in a town that is almost 30 times smaller, about living on campus, about cold weather and long dark nights in winter. Not only the environment meant a new orientation. Also the different culture of Sweden evoked expectations in me. The Swedes were supposed to be rather shy and introverted towards others, the food is very often fish (and I do not like fish at all), a new language that had to be learned, the past of the Vikings is still visible in statues, names and art, etc. All in all there were stereotypes that one heard of and now it was time to verify or falsify them.
The stereotype of blond, tall and blue eyed is one of the most common stereotypes of Swedes throughout the world. I knew, like every stereotype, there is some truth to it but mostly it is a missconception, missunderstanding or just wrong. Surprisingly, the amount of blond, tall and blue eyed Swedes is still very high. Although there are many other hair-,skin-,eye colors I did not expect the stereotype to be present that much. Additionally, the care of the look striked me as well. Swedes, men and women, seem to care a lot how they look like and take care of stylish clothing, the hair and make up, already when they only do grocery or go to the gym (and even alcoholics in Stockholm seem to have a certain standard). In Berlin of course you find that kind of dressed people as well but there are a lot more people that do not dress up at all or only for important occasions.
The barrier of the Swedish language, at first being unsure how to communicate, turned out to be very easy. Everyone is able to speak at least almost fluent English, so that I stopped asking if someone knew English in advance whenever I had a question or needed help. Only elder people maybe from 60 years on are not always capable of the English language. The high amount of English speaking Swedes really raised the thought if Sweden is naturally bilingual, supported by the fact that many TV programs are broadcasted in English as well and many shows subtitled.
And not even bilingual, many Swedish young adults even know at least one more language and are cosmopoliticly interested. One occasion however was very surprising. Being in a group of friends in the train on the way to Stockholm, we met the train conductor who spoke to us in Swedish first. We then asked in English what she wanted. After having showed our tickets she asked where we were from. After we said one from Spain, one from Italy, one from Switzerland and me from Germany, she started speaking Spanish to the Spanish guy. After she finished the chat in fluent Spanish, she asked the Swiss guy what town he was from in German and even spoke a little bit of Swiss German to him. Then talking to the Italien guy in English she told us she live some time in an italian city as well. During this occasion I realized four things that are different to my German culture. First, this women could speak several languages. That is not very often the case in Germany and especially not for train conductors. In Germany one can be lucky when they speak at least proper German. Second, this person had time enough to have a chat with us and could take a break of work without any pressure. In Germany people mostly focus on the work even in times where it would be no problem to take a break and socialize a little bit. Third, she was curious and friendly to us and wanted to know more about us. Well, in Germany and especially Berlin you are lucky when train conductors not yell at you in order to see the tickets. It is obvious not to have a chat with that person then. And fourth, the person could speak at least four languages fluently and worked as a train conductor. I am not sure about her salary but in Germany speaking foreign languages is a status symbol and can be found rather in higher classes. Only companies with higher salaries would employ people like that person and certainly not the Deutsche Bahn (German train company) as a train conductor.
The last point supports other observations that let me conclude the Swedish social structure is more equal and homogen. Independent of salary, education and social background it is not determined in what class a person is in. At least there are less classes and these are closer to each other than in Germany.
Other observations so far are i.e. the age of students at University. Almost every student I met so far is not older than 25 and about 90% are between 20 and 22 years old. In Germany the average age of beginning a course is 23 and finish it with 28.
The cities here are another interesting thing. They are clean and nicely decorated. There are no graffiti or trash on the ground and building are in a quite good shape. People even smile at you and there is no moment whatsoever where you feel the slightest threat or danger. Berlin alone has all the other faces a city could have besides the former mentioned: dirty, loud, dangerous, etc.
Another thing are the alcohol prices in Sweden that are twice as high as in Germany. Being used to provide the guest with drinks at a party is just impossible here, thats why everyone brings their own drinks in little plastic bags. These people can also be seen mostly Friday or Saturday nights on the way to a pre party, a party before the night club visit in order to reach a certain entertainment level with the help of alcohol. Used to just buy drinks in the night club for that reason here is financially impossible as well.
The last but to me most important observation is the attitude of Swedish people. The stereotype of shy, introverted Swedes is just wrong. It is of course necessary to make the first step on the street in order to ask a question or get into contact but then people are very friendly and helpful trying to answer the questions. The communal living in the corridors on campus even gains more quality and it is incredible how honest, peaceful, social and patient Swedish people in conversations are. Of course there are always counterexamples but this is an observation happened several times and therefor can be applied in general on campus and to a high degree anywhere else in Sweden as well. Finally, when Swedish people have had some beer or other drinks at parties they become very communicative and want to get to know new people (interestingly the people in Oslo, Norway are the complete opposite).
All in all it feels so good to be here and experience such an open, honest and peaceful country for a change from the rough city of Berlin. The stay here definitely broadens my horizon for myself, my future career and clarified the stereotypes of Swedish people, having lived with them and laughed with them.