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Over It:” Dealing With Relationship Disappointment in Jonathan Kahn’s
Girl |
Anonymous |
During
adolescence many girls experience a troubling loss of self-esteem. They
may, among other things, stop expressing their own opinions, develop body
image issues, and become depressed. There are varying degrees of identity
and self-esteem issues. One girl may be disappointed that she wasn’t asked
to Homecoming, and decide to go with a friend, while another girl could
conclude that no one asked her because she is disgusting and spend the
week crying. Jonathan Kahn’s Girl stars Dominique Swain as Andrea
Marr, a seemingly well-adjusted high school senior. Andrea, smart and
attractive, comes from an affluent Portland suburb and plans to attend
Brown in the fall. She idolizes her friend Cybil, who could care less
about being cool and yet is so cool. Andrea’s life is “suddenly set in
motion” when she sees Todd Sparrow, lead singer for the local band The
Color Green and then we begin to see how much she desires to be recognized.
I don’t believe that that desire in and of itself is negative, but its
affect on Andrea’s life is less than positive.
Andrea’s life is then dominated by being “cool enough”
to be Todd’s girlfriend and her friends’ value becomes determined by
what they can do to help her get to him. For all her efforts she is
rewarded with a relationship of sorts. She’s thrilled with the status
of being Todd’s “girlfriend” and ignores that their relationship is
based only on sex. Her self-worth depends on feeling like she has won
his favor. This is problematic when he leaves to tour and she realizes
that her feelings for him are not mutual. Todd does return, but before
he does two of Andrea’s friends tell her how highly they think of her.
One wants to be her, and the other, Cybil, tells Andrea that she was
the inspiration for her album. When Todd and Andrea meet after his return
he tells her that he needs her, that he can’t tour without her, that
she’s changed him and his music. Andrea is not impressed and leaves
him alone in bed. In the time that he was gone, Andrea realized that
her friends value and recognize her outside of her role as his girlfriend.
I think this allows her to no longer depend on him to feel good about
herself. Perhaps the dependence has just shifted to her friends. Or
perhaps they’ve given her a foundation that allows her depend on no
one. |